Difficult Decisions & the Mercies of God!

Walking with the Lord has often brought me to crossroads where the choices before me were anything but easy. Yet, I have learned to lean not on my own understanding but to trust in the Lord’s leading (Proverbs 3:5–6). Sometimes, God removes people from our lives, or removed me from theirs, and though it hurt, I have come to understand that it was for a reason. His mercy and wisdom far exceed my own.

I have experienced firsthand that when God allows someone to step out of our lives, or when He calls us to step away, it is not always a sign of failure. Many times, it is His protection or His preparation for something we cannot yet see. What feels like loss in the moment can be part of His greater plan for our good.

Abiding in Christ

Through these seasons, the anchor of my soul has been abiding in Jesus Christ. He said:

“If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you.”. John 15:7

There have been times when I have wept before the Lord, uncertain of the future, yet His Word reminded me of His nearness. Marriage, as God designed, is sacred, and Scripture gives clear guidance:

“To the married I give this charge (not I, but the Lord): the wife should not separate from her husband (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife.”

1 Corinthians 7:10–11

This has been a sobering reminder for me that even when separation was necessary, I am called to remain faithful to God’s Word, waiting on Him to lead, whether toward reconciliation or a season of singleness.

My Personal Crossroad

I know what it is to carry a heavy cross. I married a U.S. citizen who had promised me before marriage that he would move to Canada. But only three months after our wedding, he changed his mind. 

It took me 2 1/2 years to decide to move to be with my husband in the US as I still had children in school and they did not want to move to the US but remain with their biological father and his family in Canada. So, I moved wanting to do the right thing by God and be with my husband. I sacrificed and gave up everything. I lived in the U.S for 5 years separated from my sons. Those were some of the hardest years of my life. I missed many of their milestones, their daily laughter, even their struggles. I was their mother, yet I could not be physically present. My heart broke more times than I can count. But in those dark moments, I held on to the truth that God was watching over them in ways I could not.

Now, back in Canada, I can say with confidence that I have not fallen away from God. On the contrary, those hardships drove me closer to Him. I have seen His mercy cover me and every step of me returning to Canada , I see God's Hand in it. He made a way and I am blessed.  I have seen His faithfulness even in my weakness. And I continue to trust that He will redeem every year that had been lost.

When Headship is Misused by husbands

Christ’s leadership was not marked by control, harshness, or self-interest, it was marked by sacrifice and love. When a husband uses his position to control, dominate, or manipulate, he has stepped outside of God’s design for marriage. Headship was never meant to crush but to protect and nurture.

Finding Peace in God’s Mercy

Even now, as I walk through the aftermath of difficult choices and painful losses, I rest in this truth: my God is merciful. He does not abandon me in the valley but walks beside me. His peace “which surpasses all understanding” (Philippians 4:7) continues to guard my heart and mind in Christ Jesus.

If you are a woman standing at a difficult crossroads, know this: you are not alone. Abide in Him, cling to His Word, and trust His mercy. What God removes, He will redeem. What He allows, He will strengthen you to endure. And in all things, He will remain faithful.